A FAMILY

 

           A FAMILY

           By RUBIA. R LASKAR

           ASSISTANT PROFESSOR

           DEPARTMENT OF EDUCATION

 

      Every individual answer to loneliness is a family. A family is a blessed word and is the best social institution which exists only on the bond of love. A group of people like a father, mother, brother, sister, wife and children forms a family. A father in a family teaches to be a strong and a brave person and a mother who teaches to be beautiful both from inside and outside. She teaches all the values that a child should process and play an important role in the family and society. Brothers and sisters who are bonded together through blood relations act as a catalyst  to speed up the process of success in life. Whether education, marriage and also struggle in life. Siblings through mutual discussions and understanding come up with a solution to any problem of any kind. Support is the quality treasured in a family as supporting each other in any time whether happiness or sadness is found only in a family. Decision making also is found as one of the qualities of a family, as all family members , especially the heads of the family come together to come out with a decision to seek solution to any issues. Sharing of ideas to contribute for quality success happens in a family. Discussions relating to any issues can be sorted out by discussing among the members of a family. These qualities are generally identified with a well functioning family. Some include support, love and caring for other family members. Also providing security and a sense of belonging, open communication, making each member of the family feel important, valued, respected and esteemed. A well functioning family shows respect, both for the parents and children and it is vital to a healthy family relationship. Guidance exists in every family where the members of the family are guided to achieve one's goal. Trust existing in any family creates a very strong bond. A healthy family spends good quality time together with each other. At the end of the day, we return back to our family as what matters is the love for each other and live together in a place called home. The love demonstrated with partners and children dictates how children behave with each other and their future families. Rules made in the family should fit by the age and capacities of each person in a family. If parenting is done with love and logic it disciplines the children to a large extent. When we show respect to our child from the start, they are more likely to behave in a way deserving of that respect and to get respect in return. A good family has a balanced and mutual respect between its members. Without communication a family can never exist. Talking to the child about things that may not be most comfortable can do a long way in helping build a strong and resilient family. In order to have a good family dynamic it is necessary to trust the family members. During hard times, the family which remains throughout home becomes a supportive space with a congenial environment when kids can feel comfortable talking about their dreams  and goals in life. When children are raised with empathy and are taught to live with empathy with each other. Life is also filled up with twists and turns, when things go wrong or change hots, it is the family that are the most adaptable and resistant that manage to hold it  all together. It is necessary to demonstrate and encourage adaptability for a family. Sometimes, when things do not go as planned, family members remain ready with a back up plan to help make the most of the situation. At the same time it is needed to teach that a change of plans is not the end of the world. In this world no one is perfect and no family will ever be perfect as five fingers are always not the same. But with some real effort a strong, happy and successful family can be built. What is important are all necessities are provided, all the health needs of the family are met, mistakes are welcomed and taken as a lesson to learn. As a perfect family is not the one without problems, but it's the one that can handle the problems together based on love and respect. Without the qualities of love, respect, trust and understanding, a family is hardly imaginable. In order to have a perfect family, every family member should process the qualities of being honest with oneself, being real and being willing to change and also true family can be processed when the family members are encouraged and realized about the hidden qualities present in them. The negative quality of betrayal should be absent in the family, belongingness is the most sweetest quality of a family as it makes a member feel important in the family. It should not be forgotten that family helps us get through the most disastrous times and the best times. It is the family members who will always look to see and bring out the best in the members of the family. In a family, the term Love  refers to the bonds characterized by deep affection, respect, loyalty and healthy attachment. We should therefore all agree that family relationships are different from other types of bond. Family is indeed an indescribable word, as to our family, we owe our most precious secrets, our deepest  worries and our biggest smiles. There may be moments in which things fall and break but family will always be our beginning and our end. So, family is a blessing on earth and is the greatest treasure of our life.